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Friends, enemies and everyone in between by Irina Avtsin

Review: Another of Irina Avtsin’s books in a series dealing with self-realization and improvement, it’s again a basic workbook written in straightforward terms anyone can understand. Some of it is common sense, like realizing a relationship of any kind that brings negative consequences and results may be one a person needs to get away from, but the main point is having you look at yourself and your contacts from a different perspective.

How to determine which relationships, whether they are simply strangers or superficial contacts through the acquaintance stage and/or friends or enemies stage might seem easy enough for some people to do, but for others, it is more complicated. Having little books with reminders and tips that can improve our lives is nothing to dismiss, or for that matter, scoff. Certainly, there are more comprehensive manuals out there. There are longer, more complex self-help series, but I find Irina Avtsin’s books to be particularly sincere and knowledgeable on a “real” and believable level. No exercise in itself is too hard to complete or understand, even if it uses mathematics.

What I really like about Avtsin’s writing is that it is accessible. In this digital age where more and more people are relying on digital means to learn life skills, it’s just a fact. A series like this gives helpful knowledge you don’t have to hear in repetition from someone you’d prefer not to listen to. Except for a few persistent punctuation problems, The Personal Confidancy Series is one to follow if you’re looking for good advice on a variety of subjects.

Description: This workbook will help you to take a closer look at your relationships in a structured, yet very compassionate way. It will empower you to take the first step towards keeping and appreciating the nurturing relationships you have and terminating the stale or harmful ones.

Published: February 24, 2011

Published by: Irina Avtsin

Available for Kindle and on Smashwords.

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Author Bio:

Irina Avtsin was born and raised in Moscow, Russia and, being an admittedly brave teenager (or just a teenager ☺ ) immigrated to Israel on her own, arriving there on the second day of the first Gulf War. She got her gas mask and an Israeli passport at the airport – and that was her welcome to the country. Irina worked her way through college, getting BSc in Computer Science from Technion (Israeli equivalent of MIT). She came to the US in 1999 and soon started on Wall Street – first at Merrill Lynch and then at Citigroup. Irina got her MBA from Columbia Business School in 2007. She worked at Credit Suisse Private banking, before starting Personal Confidantency, which she then expanded into “Let’s do a reality check!” and “MBA Confidante”. Irina likes Yoga, Pilates and hopes to learn to play golf some day. She appreciates good food, nice wine and well written books. Irina is fluent in Russian, Hebrew, and English and speaks some French.

You can learn more about Irina and her practice at http://www.letsdoarealitycheck.com.

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Rediscovering the Power of ‘No’ by Irina Avtsin

Review: Don’t be fooled by the happy looking frog on the cover, this book means serious business, for gaining the power to say “No”, is both an empowering and necessary step to take control of your own life. Written in a warm style, as if from a personal friend, I might have used more bulleted lists and arranged some of the material differently, but “Rediscovering the Power of ‘No'” is a worthy, little read.

This ebook is rather in a workbook format, with progressive exercises to help you get your “No” back in gear. It requests you really look deep into your motivations and some of the reasons one might feel overwhelmed by even simple requests. Some of the suggestions and encouragement might be common sense, but they are also things everyone needs to hear again, especially those struggling with everything from feelings of inadequacy to depression. Not to replace professional counseling if such is needed, it’s a good stepping stone for personal empowerment.

This is part of the Personal Confidantency Series.

Description: Make your life easier by learning to say ‘No’! This workbook will help you to start.

Why you might want to buy this workbook for yourself or as a gift?
Let’s see.  Have you ever found yourself doing a task that you felt should have been done by others?  Or watching the movie for the second time (that you did not want to see even once)?

If you did not say “no” to both questions – this workbook is for you!
You can avoid a lot of these and other unpleasant experiences, by (gasp!) saying “no” – the right way and at the right time.

Published by Irina Avtsin

Publication Date: 21 Jan. 2011

Genre: Self-Improvement, Self-Help, Lifestyles

Buy Link: Smashwords and Amazon

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Author Bio:

Multilingual and multicultural Columbia Business School graduate Irina Avtsin has over fifteen years of business experience, working in several industries on a couple of continents. Irina is both personally and professionally familiar with the difficulties that arise from having to negotiate different careers and cultures.

She lived and studied in Israel and Russia. Irina’s keen interest in psychology, combined with business acumen and ability to understand others and view the situation through their eyes allowed her to help a lot of people through various life challenges.

Website: http://www.letsdoarealitycheck.com

Blog: http://www.confidantemusings.com

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“What Makes You Happy?” by Faith Folau

The author of memoir “Stoned Honor”, let’s us know some of the things which make her happy at her blog “The Everyday Truth and Justice TS/TG/TV & Others”.  Her book is in my queue, and I very much look forward to reading it.

What makes me happy?

“So today, I was stuck and tried all day to find some kind of inspiring inspiration, to get me in the mood to write an article that everyone can read. I went on twitter to ask people and the first person that answered said, “I want to read what makes you happy.”

It makes me happy to be able to reach out to people all over the world, and to help share my inspirational thoughts and opinions on almost everything. I like to write and have conversations about life situations, and maybe discuss it with people from all over. I am somewhat spiritual because I still have to teach myself the true journey of my higher power. I also like to be engaged at my church to be able to get up and talk and spread my views of my under standings for the gospel.

The highest thing that will bring me full joy is to be able to take care of my whole family. I think that is every ones happiness now days. I do not mean taking care of them all financially, but also to help support some one in the need of support, whatever it is good or bad. I want to be able to have most of the answers to a family member who are young and other young kids. To be able to give love and good advice makes one happy at the end of the day.

Like I mentioned in one of my thank you videos, I stated that my books is about self help, It’s not just me talking about my past, family, drama, friends but it also gives you a better understanding from my point of view and also results to whom ever that might have went through my situations. I am a Libra so holding the scales to life should be balanced. There for I talk about many angles in life as I possibly can.”

Please visit Faith’s site to read her full post on self-healing, love and hope. To purchase your copy  “Stoned Honor” in ebook or print, please visit Lulu.com.


My response to Faith:

I particularly enjoyed the thought that when you write, you don’t think of just one, but for all. Also, it’s very good point that part of what we learn does not involve formal education, for some people it’s even less, yet it doesn’t mean they are unworthy. I would say, being Native American myself, and now working informally with other natives and their children within the school system, many also have low education levels but much to offer if people give them a chance.

You referenced your memoir Stoned Honor, and yes some stories are extremely difficult to tell and some may question why it’s written and what it has to offer. As you say, whatever happened in the past, however painful, that you have come out of it with a positive, strong spirit is the point of writing it. To let others know, trouble elements in the past do not have to equal a negative future. That is also my point in writing my memoir “The Boys Who Died”. The first chapters are here: http://bit.ly/gWc1dY



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